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Game 6 Recap

October 17, 2013

This last Friday was the hardest I’ve ever had to witness as a Coach’s Wife. What happened was the most deplorable behavior I’ve seen from parents. It’s taken me all week to make this post because we are still dealing with the fallout.

At any level, in any sport, the coaching staff is generally putting your children before themselves and their own priorities. They aren’t simply teaching children how to play a sport or how to effectively win. They are teaching children how to be a team player, how to be respectful of themselves and to others. Good coaches teach team members how to be a gracious winner and how to cope with losing. Coaches should be preparing youth to be productive members of society, how to be a role model for their peers and how to be leaders, not followers.

My husband’s coaching staff fits all the above criteria, and despite their best efforts, they have found themselves continually thwarted by parents that work so hard to tear down the progress. Is improvement without winning games really that terrifying? Is change towards a more productive team environment really not enticing? Isn’t having a coaching staff that cares and prioritizes the children’s improvement really more important then having a coaching staff that wants to be friends with all the parents?

We had three parents accost our varsity defensive coordinator in the parking lot after Friday’s game. This coach did not engage the parents or take the bite for the fight. The coach was verbally abused in front of other parents, children and campus security. This coach subsequently quit and we were later able to convince him to stay for the rest of the season. We were in a position of having the whole coaching staff quit (including CC) if the proper actions to fix this situation weren’t taken. Our principal has made it clear to two of the parents that any further indiscretions will result in being tossed from games and being barred from future school events. One parent, the one mostly responsible, and the one who we have issues with before, has been asked to no longer attend games. Our principal was able to get our victimized coach to file a police report and the parent will be arrested the next time he sets foot on campus.

No one should have to work in an environment that allows parents to have so much control that attempting to start fist fights with coaches is an appropriate response to lost games. I support my husband, I support my football family. I’m broken hearted and sickened over this situation. I ask that you love and celebrate your hard working coaches. Tell them you appreciate what they do. Thank them. This job is all to thankless already, and treating a coaching staff as if they are just out there to relive their own glory days is not only dangerous, but detrimental to your own child’s ability to progress in their chosen sport.

Our coaches sacrifice the ability to have a personal life, date, spend time with family and loved ones and take vacations. Our coaches work when sick, are on time to games 20 miles away while spending their own gas and leaving their day jobs early. They break their butts to get your children to have a higher appreciation of a game that is not a passing hobby but a life’s passion. They work hard and sacrifice so much for at times very little in return.

These amazing people do this because they love the kids, they love the game, they love what they can share. This isn’t about going 10-0, this is about changing lives and making a difference. This is about love, respect and creating a team environment that will inspire kids for a lifetime.

Love your coaches. Hug them. Don’t turn your back on them, they love your kids as much as you do.

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